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Pathological Demand Avoidance
Calm the Meltdowns, Save Them from a Lifetime of Shame, and Learn the Scripts That Work for PDA and Autistic Kids
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Independently Published Unsere-Artikel-Nr.: P35833824
EAN: 9798182413190
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Zustellung: Fr, 16.10.2026
Versand: Kostenlos
CHF 35.25
Beschreibung
Gentle parenting does nothing. Firm boundaries do nothing. Consequences do nothing. >The calm voice, and the voice that cracked this morning, yelling at a six-year-old and not recognizing the woman doing it. You've caught yourself wishing your child were afraid of you - at least then they'd listen. That thought isn't you. It's what exhaustion does. So you stopped trusting the books. Then you stopped trusting yourself. And you started wondering whether your child is the problem, or you are. You are not the problem. And neither is your child. What you're living with has a name: Pathological Demand Avoidance. Once you understand what's happening in your child's nervous system, almost everything the books told you to do is the wrong tool for the right kid. PDA is a nervous system condition. Your child's body reads ordinary requests - put on your shoes, come to dinner - as threats to survival. The fight at the front door is real fight-or-flight, triggered before the sentence ends. What looks like defiance is biology. What looks like cruelty is fear. There are moments you don't bring to other mothers. The thing the grandmother said that you've never repeated to anyone. The afternoon at the party when you saw the other kids keeping their distance, and part of you understood why. It all comes from a single misread. A nervous system in overload can't show shame or empathy in a way onlookers recognize. What you're seeing isn't a child choosing to harm. It's a child gone underwater, whose face in that moment doesn't look like yours would. The fear goes out of you the moment you understand it. This book gives you that moment. No clinician with a clipboard here. Just a mother who spent years sure she'd broken her child, tried every script in every book, and found the few that actually work, calmly, in the kitchen, without raising her voice. Inside, you'll learn:. Commands vs. declaratives - the language shift that ends most morning battles in under a week, and what to say instead of because I said so. Meltdown vs. ordinary upset - they look identical and need opposite responses. Getting it wrong is the biggest mistake parents make. How to repair without grovelling - what to say after the day you yelled, to your child and. to yourself. Why your daughter has been called manipulative, evil, or just dramatic - and what every clinician has missed for years. Why this isn't your fault - and how to put down the shame loop you've been carrying. The 90-day protocol for after your child has already crashed - when school has collapsed, food has narrowed, and you don't know what to do next. What to say when school stops working, the violence starts, and the marriage strains - the meetings, the siblings, the partner six months behind you. >Your child doesn't have to become one of them. The window is open now. This book won't promise a transformed child by Christmas, or that you'll never yell again. What it gives you instead: the words you've been reaching for. Scripts when your own run out. And the voice of someone who's lived inside this house, on the night you're having tonight. You are exhausted, not bad - the mother of a child whose brain works in a way nobody taught you about. Take a breath. Then start reading.
Spezifikationen
Sprache
- Englisch
Autor
- Alyssa Powell
Erscheinungsjahr
- 2026
Format
- Buch (Softcover)
Anzahl Seiten
- 312